A few days back, I asked you guys on my Instagram (If you aren’t yet, you should follow me @vincentdesmond_) what content you’ll love to see from me this new month and literally all of you asked for more beauty and skincare posts, which I personally found funny as I had already penned it down that this month I was going to create a lot of beauty related content and seeing that you guys were interested in seeing that from me definitely gare me the boost I needed. And also a pretty good amount of you guys have been asking me in my DMs why I haven’t posted any skincare DIYs, reviews or the likes so I decided I needed to answer that with a blog post before I get into this month’s content.
If I’m being honest, I had no concrete reason. Just that I was tired of constantly getting DMs from people over my sexuality and people implying that just because I cared enough about my skin to write about it meant I was gay. Even though, I’m not sure there is a relationship between having or not having an interest in skincare and a person’s sexuality.
I’ve never been the most ‘normal’ guy growing up, I hate soccer and pretty much every stereotypical thing men liked so I’ve gotten used to people making jokes and bullying me over the fact I don’t fit into the gender roles box men are supposed to fix. However, what I didn’t factor in was that this rigid box spilled over to blogging and the creative industry and apparently male bloggers had to be a certain way, especially in Nigeria. And when I looked around it kind of dawned on me that almost every other male blogger and content creator was the same way and had a similar pattern. There was a pattern to their content, their consistency etc and it seemed to me that maybe I was overstretching myself by being different. Maybe I was doing too much.
I’m trying my hardest to not let this post be too long so I’ll end with this: The truth is I’m not the problem, society is. I’m not too much, I’ve never been too much but the people who had a problem with my beauty content weren’t enough so I’m back and as extra as ever. Writing this blog, putting out all these weird and quirky content honestly makes me feel good about myself, I’m not about to let that go. And from what my stats and engagement tells me, you guys enjoy it as well. So I’ve changed my Instagram bio (You know it’s real when you change your Instagram bio), I no longer feel I need validation from anyone and I promise you guys I’m going to be a lot more consistent with the beauty content this month (So consistent I’ll make all the boys who aren’t secure with their masculinity and sexuality shrivel up and DIE) the only thing I ask for you guys to keep coming back and subscribe.
Moral of This Story : Do you boo, do you today and everyday that comes after.
Before I forget, Happy New Month and for those of us whose year starts in February – Happy New Year! Have you ever had to change a part of yourself to fit in? How many of you enjoyed my beauty content?